If you don’t know your (intellectual) worth, you will never get what you truly deserve. It really amazes me how many people don’t take care of their own bodies! The best asset and the only thing we really own is ourselves. Use it or lose it applies to the mind too. Doesn’t it make sense to then know how much you are worth?
The number one thing that I can tell you about your worth is to not allow people to treat you poorly.
Poor treatment is not acceptable. What are you a doormat? Let me tell you a little secret, you’re not a damn doormat you’re an extraordinary human being. You excel in things that only you can do in your own unique way.
The more you allow people to take advantage of you, the more they do. It’s really sad but true. Give them an inch and they will take a mile. Now I’m not saying to not do things for people, that is a different story. If you do something for someone and they appreciate you and don’t take advantage of you then do it, you can work with that.
If you are someplace where you are not celebrated get out of there. I don’t care if it’s a relationship or a job, get as far away as you can. Don’t waste your time with a loser. We only have so many days here on earth so we better enjoy them.
Plan well because life is nothing but a long-term plan.
We have been making plans for years. In school, they tell us to plan for our future. In school, they are talking about planning an education. They teach you to do what you are told and be an employee. What they don’t teach us in school is that we need to plan out every aspect of our lives with great detail if we want to be fabulously happy. Stuff doesn’t just happen good for you by accident. You are totally worth taking the time to plan.
It can be great to be an employee if your employer treats you fairly, you enjoy your job and you make enough money. But what if you hate your job and don’t make as much money as you’d like? Move on sister and find a better place.
There are three areas of your life that you have to get right in order to be happy.
- Family/Friends (because friends are the family you choose)
If you are not actively planning to have the best of all those things they will not magically happen. Life’s too short to leave things up to chance!
But, and this is a big Kardashian sized butt, you have to believe in yourself and know your worth to even set your expectations on those things.
If I think I’m only worthy of having a man or employer who refuses to respect and appreciate me, or me having enough money to be able to properly care for myself and my family, then I simply do not know my worth.
Make a List
Lists are grand. If you are wanting to find a worthy partner, make a list of all of the qualities you are looking for. Dream big, make this your dream partner because this list will come true and if you put something on there that you don’t want you will be stuck with it.
This guy should be Superman. I mean, SUPERMAN. I did the list, and three years later there came my husband who fit my list to a T. I made my list and put it into a book, forgot about the list and found it again years later. I was in awe by how exactly my list matched my husband.
I had at least 30 bullet points on there and he matched them ALL. You know what I did after I made that list? I got to work on myself. I forgot about finding a man and just got to know me and I got on the path to be a better person. I’m so glad that I did because my husband is spectacular and deserved the best mate for him, he needed the person I had become.
Before I met my husband, I was attracting losers. My father even said to me that if there was a loser within 300 miles I would find him. Kind of a bitch move, but I needed to learn a lesson.
The real reason I only chose losers was that I was treated as though I was not worthy of any better. I was treated poorly by my parents and I really didn’t know any different. I woke up one day and realized my parents were all wrong about me. I was not worthless, I was worthy and I was going to prove it to the world and most especially to myself.
Your worth is not determined by what your parents think or thought of you. Your worth is not determined by what you did in the past. Your worth is determined by who you are today, and who you will be tomorrow.
I had my own business for years, but it wasn’t healthy.
I was an employee of my business and I had no time for myself or anyone else. I knew I wanted more. I tried a few different jobs but I was never truly appreciated and even though I may have been good at what I did and made decent money, it was not my dream job.
Over 14 years ago I had a shot at my dream job. It happened after I made a vision board and wrote down what I wanted for my life. I’ve been living the dream ever since. All it takes is a simple act of writing down what you want and you will get it. But you have to dream big, do you know why? Because you are worth it.
Writing down what you want in life is the second step to believe you are worth something.
See potential in people. What you reap you will also sow. Be a cheerleader for friends and family members. Help others see their worth and in turn you will grow your own appreciation.
Look at yourself with those same positive eyes. See your own potential. Don’t ever give up because it’s never too late. It doesn’t matter what your age is, you are the age you are supposed to be at this exact moment in time because you earn the wisdom you gain with each passing year.
We can do anything we set our minds to, as long as we do not give up.
You know what single thing all single thing all successful people have in common? They never give up. The secret to not giving up is to know your worth. If you know you are better than your present situation, push past that place and get to where you deserve. If you don’t know you are better than your present situation then sit around and think about it for awhile because you are. We all are. I’m better than where I am today and I love where I am.
I’m perfectly happy, but I can do more, I can do better. I want the absolute best for my family. I want my blog to take off so I can show others how to blog too. I will never quit my day job, but I can definitely spend less time at it and let my creative juices flow online. I love to be creative. I love being a mom and a wife, I love to write, I love a lot of stuff and I’m going to spend my time doing it all because I’m worth it.
Find those who inspire you.
Inspiration is really a must-have. Sometimes I get too comfortable and forget to be inspired to move forward full throttle. I’ve learned that all I need to do is find my inspiration. Lately, I’ve found it in the form of audiobooks. My audible playlist has titles like Girl Code, Unlocking the Secrets to Happiness for the Female Entrepreneur, The Five Hour Work Week, and You are a Badass at Making Money. These books inspire me!
You don’t even have to spend money on audio books if you have a membership at your local library, you can get them for free.
If you get your audiobooks for free then please make sure you spend some of your money investing in yourself in other places. Take a course or invest in your wardrobe, hair, makeup, and nails. Do not go getting yourself into debt or become a shopaholic because saving money is a really important investment in yourself too. But budget some money for you because you are worth it.
Budgeting money for yourself helps you realize your worth.
Dave Ramsey is an excellent resource for you to learn how to save money and invest in your future because girl, you’re worth it.
What you surround yourself with you will become. Surround yourself with people that will build you up and help you learn your worth. Follow these people on Twitter, go to their websites, and download their apps. This is an important step in knowing your worth. I’m not an affiliate but I am a graduate of Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University.
I would really hate for anyone to get the wrong message from me and think that they should spend all of their money and not save or budget because that is not what I’m saying at all. Some people already spend too much money but most women hardly will spend any on themselves and that’s not good at all either.
Find a way to make more money.
Start a blog, start a business, get your talent out in the world to help people and find a way to monetize it! Ask for a promotion at work, or find a different job. You are worth it. Even with all of your efforts, you will have down days, that is for sure, so build a support system of inspiration so you can pick yourself back up and move on to that glorious future of yours.
Having a fabulous life doesn’t happen by accident. You spend an entire lifetime building it. What you did or did not accomplish yesterday doesn’t matter, it’s what you do TODAY that will keep you going. If you are having trouble starting you may be out of work-life balance. I wrote a post about it, Why work-life balance is so important, how to spot it if you are unbalanced, and how to fix it.
So tell me, what are your plans? Write it down in the comments and get it out there! Go ahead I’m listening.